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Healing From Narcissistic Abuse

 "For a narcissistic relationship to sustain, you have to cease being yourself.

It's that absolute. You don't get to be you."

~Dr. Ramani Durvasula


Conscious Uncoupling

and Calling in "The One"

with Healing from Narcissistic Abuse


"Wouldn't it be wonderful if we could all be a little more gentle with each other,

a little more loving,

have a little more empathy,

and maybe we'd like each other a little bit more."

~Judy Garland

Transformative Coaching

Melissa is currently training with Dr. Ramani Durvasula,

the world's leading narcissism expert

and New York Times bestselling author of

It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People.

She is devoted to infusing both Conscious Uncoupling

and Calling in "The One"

with a specialized focus on healing from narcissistic abuse

and antagonistic relational stress.

Empathy and sensitivity,

two of your most beautiful traits,

render you vulnerable to the emotional abuse

of narcissistic relationships.

If this has been your experience, you are not alone. 

And there is nothing wrong with you.

The problem is the behavior of someone

with a narcissistic personality style. 

Within the transformative coaching partnership,

you will be expertly guided to heal

from these toxic dynamics whether they be past, present or both.

Paramount to the future, 

you are now empowered to discern narcissism

and quickly spot "red flags."

These include the silent treatment, breadcrumbing, 

gaslighting, love bombing,

trauma bonding, blame-shifting, coercive control,

hoovering, devaluation, walking on eggshells

and flying monkeys.

Moving forward,

you are safeguarded against

becoming entangled and stuck with partners

(or dynamics) that are not good for you.

On a foundation of unconditional self-love,

you will now create relationships

characterized by empathy, respect, safety,

kindness, shared laughter, reciprocity,

growth, mutuality, deep connection and so much more.

At last, you are safe to shine your light and be you. 

My Story

The scene: A dimly lit psychotherapist's office in Manhattan's West Village.

As a New York University graduate student, studying to be a psychotherapist, I am wiping away tears and deeply confused.

Despite doing everything "right," I feel anxious and depressed.

And the relationship with a beautiful man, the divine partnership reflective of our inherent worthiness, remains elusive.

"What am I doing wrong?"

My therapist leans toward me thoughtfully.

"Before you fall in love with him, Melissa, you must fall in love with yourself."

I nod in agreement and disappear onto Prince Street having no idea how to love myself.

It would be years before I understood what was actually happening: As a chronically self-abandoning empath, I was suffering from a lack of self-love AND the fall-out of narcissistic abuse/antagonistic relational stress.

As a New York State Licensed Psychotherapist in worldwide private practice since 2010, I am passionate about infusing the Calling in "The One" and Conscious Uncoupling processes with a specialized focus on Self-Love Mastery and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse.

When you learn to love yourself, and heal from narcissistic abuse/antagonistic relational stress, the Conscious Uncoupling process becomes even more powerful and profound.

And "The One" excitingly follows, a relationship characterized by empathy, respect, kindness, safety, mutual cherishing, growth, laughter, playfulness, evolving best friendship, the sharing of an unconditional love that never ends and so much more.

I look forward to hearing your story and exploring the possibility of working together.