Melissa Erin Monahan, M.A., LCAT - New York State Licensed Psychotherapist



Created by New York Times best-selling author
Katherine Woodward Thomas, M.A., MFT
Conscious Uncoupling is...

Leaf A 5-Step process for how to end a romantic union in honorable, gracious and respectful ways;

Leaf A step-by-step road map for how to breakup in a way that does minimal damage to all involved;

Leaf A clear guide for how separating couples can create new, cooperative, life-affirming agreements and structures that set everyone up to win moving forward.


"A Conscious Uncoupling is a breakup that is characterized by good will, generosity and respect. It is a process that leaves parties feeling valued and appreciated for all the good that was experienced. It is a shared intention to minimize the damage they do to themselves, to each other and to their children."

~Katherine Woodward Thomas, M.A. MFT

New York Times best-selling author of

Conscious Uncoupling:
5 Steps to Living Happily Even After


With amazing clarity and depth, Katherine Woodward Thomas will take the splinter out of your soul and support you to end your relationship in a way that leaves you and those you care about whole and complete, rather than broken and damaged.

I love this book!”

~New York Times bestselling author Marci Shimoff


“Thomas proves herself compassionate and emotionally in-tune with the pain of love lost, and her guidance will likely usher many of those afflicted to a brighter, or at least less bitter, future.”

~Publishers Weekly


Conscious Uncoupling is a kind and compassionate guide on how to overcome breakup grief and use it to transform and enrich your entire life. The process Katherine Woodward Thomas provides will not only help make your heart whole again, but will also ensure a positive, hopeful future for all involved.

A paradigm- shifting book that promises to uplevel how we collectively do breakups moving forward.”

~John Gray, New York Times bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus


“Katherine Woodward Thomas brings a gentle but fiercely powerful approach to what can otherwise be such a painful experience. Through Conscious Uncoupling, we can transform the deepest disappointment into a sacred journey from sorrow to peace.”

~Marianne Williamson, New York Times bestselling author of A Return to Love


Katherine Woodward Thomas is my relationship guru. Her wisdom and guidance helped me clear all blocks to romantic freedom. Conscious Uncoupling will help you embrace the true meaning of forgiveness and restore your faith in love.”

                                            ~Gabrielle Bernstein, New York Times bestselling author of Miracles Now



Gwyneth Paltrow introduces Conscious Uncoupling

on her modern lifestyle website

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Gwyneth Paltrow Letter

Conscious Uncoupling was made internationally famous when actress Gwyneth Paltrow and her former husband, musician Chris Martin, used the term to announce their divorce back in 2014 and, as Gwyneth says, “broke the internet” in the process. 

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In addition to being a New York Times bestseller, Conscious Uncoupling is a clear and simple 5-step private coaching process that can empower anyone to have a loving, as well as kind, separation or divorce --- words not typically associated with a breakup.

 And this can happen even when only one person engages the Conscious Uncoupling process. 

The goal of a Concious Uncoupling is never to sever the relationship. Many couples come to the work with the desire to remain friends and, especially if they share children, cooperative co-parents. 

 “Family structure can be reinvented and divorce doesn’t have to be devastating,” Paltrow has said. “It doesn’t have to be the end of your relationship with somebody. I think Chris and I were meant to be together and have our kids but our relationship is much better like this: friends and co-parents and family.”


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"Conscious Uncoupling is not just a Gwyneth-ism…
[It’s] been around for years,

though under the radar—

well, until now.”

~Elle magazine


                                       



Conscious Uncoupling Private Coaching

with Melissa


As a private coaching structure, Conscious Uncoupling begins with a formal (60-minutes) introductory session. If we decide the program is a fit for you at this time, what follows is a profoundly transformative process designed to release the trauma of a breakup, reclaim your power and reinvent your life.

You will be supported to heal the old painful relationship patterns as you begin to master the invaluable (and practical) skills of unconditional self-love. You will also be guided to "the root of the root" of what we call your Source Fracture (which is an unconscious false belief about who you are) as you lovingly transform breakup grief and step into the highest---and most authentic---version of yourself and your life.

What may otherwise be a time of heartache and disappointment can become a healing, liberating and even joyful experience.




Private Conscious Uncoupling Coaching Step-by-Step



Conscious Uncoupling Creed


Step One: Finding Emotional Freedom


~The first step in your Conscious Uncoupling process is to learn how to harness the energies of the wildly dark and difficult emotions you may be experiencing such as rage, hatred, fear, anxiety and despair.

~You will learn how to transform difficult emotions from destructive impulses to hurt yourself or others into constructive drivers of positive change.

~In this step, you will create the conditions for liberation beyond your old painful patterns in love.

~You will awaken to your power to radically evolve how you live---and how you love.





Step Two: Reclaiming Your Power & Your Life


~In step two of your Conscious Uncoupling process, you'll let go of being a wounded victim of love, shifting your perspective away from blaming and shaming yourself (and others) to take personal responsibility for your part in what happened.

~You will identify the major way (or ways) you have been self-abandoning up until now. 

~By doing so, you'll start to see how you have been the source of your own suffering in a way that liberates you from ever repeating this dynamic again.

~You will be empowered to evolve beyond your disappointing patterns in love.


Step Three: Breaking the Pattern, Healing Your Heart


~In step three of your Conscious Uncoupling process, you'll be supported to see your "Source Fracture" story clearly. 

~You will understand how an unconscious false belief is at the root of your repetitive, painful, patterns in love and relationship.

~You will begin to develop your spiritually-connected loving adult self. 

~You will access your own, personal, source of unconditional love, wisdom and guidance. 

~Perhaps for the first time, you will access the deeper truth of who you are. 

~You will identify new ways of being and relating that are in alignment with the deeper truth of who you are. 




Step Four: Becoming a Love Alchemist


~In step four of your Conscious Uncoupling process, you'll awaken to yourself as a powerful co-creator of your life.  

~Steeped in practicality, you will learn how to generate a positive future for yourself, as well as others, no matter how hurtful or hard things have been until now.

~You will be empowered to make choices and take actions that promise to graduate you from the painful patterns of your past.

~You will learn how to radically transform the dynamic between you and your former partner to reflect the truth of your value and power.

~In this step, you will also ensure that the life you're embracing will be greater than the one you're releasing.


Step Five: Creating Your Happily Even After Life


~In the fifth and final step of your Conscious Uncoupling process, you will be supported to make wise, healthy and life-affirming decisions as you take on the essential tasks of reinventing your life.

~You will set up vital new structures that allow you (and all involved) to thrive after this transition.

~No longer consumed by the loss of a love relationship, you will begin to access the beautiful life that is waiting for you on the other side of this grief.

~And while your new life may look different than the one you left behind, you will be guided in becoming an authentic, self-loving, version of yourself capable of harmony with your former partner---as well as unprecedented new love. 



Private sessions are conducted on phone, Skype

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Conscious Uncoupling Integration Coaching

for Individuals and Couples 



Integration coaching is available for individuals and couples who have completed

the six-step Conscious Uncoupling process. 





Private sessions are conducted on phone, Skype

or FaceTime. 

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