Created by New York Times best-selling author
Katherine Woodward Thomas, M.A., MFT
Conscious Uncoupling™ is...
A 5-Step process for how to end a romantic union in honorable, gracious and respectful ways;
A step-by-step road map for how to breakup in a way that does minimal damage to all involved;
A clear guide for how separating couples can create new, cooperative and life-affirming agreements and structures that set everyone up to win moving forward.
Originated by my mentor, marriage and family therapist Katherine Woodward Thomas in 2011 as an online course that has helped thousands to breakup better, Conscious Uncoupling provides a blueprint for separations that are most known for their bountiful acts of kindness, big-hearted gestures of generosity and goodness, and for the genuine efforts made to do the right thing for the right reasons.
"A Conscious Uncoupling is a break-up that is characterized by good will, generosity and respect. It is a process that leaves parties feeling valued and appreciated for all the good that was experienced. It is a shared intention to minimize the damage they do to themselves, to each other and to their children."
~Katherine Woodward Thomas, M.A. MFT
New York Times best-selling author of
5 Steps to Living Happily Even After
“With amazing clarity and depth, Katherine Woodward Thomas will take the splinter out of your soul and support you to end your relationship in a way that leaves you and those you care about whole and complete, rather than broken and damaged. I love this book!”
~New York Times bestselling author Marci Shimoff
“Thomas proves herself compassionate and emotionally in-tune with the pain of love lost, and her guidance will likely usher many of those afflicted to a brighter, or at least less bitter, future.”
“Conscious Uncoupling is a kind and compassionate guide on how to overcome breakup grief and use it to transform and enrich your entire life. The process Katherine Woodward Thomas provides will not only help make your heart whole again, but will also ensure a positive, hopeful future for all involved. A paradigm- shifting book that promises to uplevel how we collectively do breakups moving forward.”
~John Gray, New York Times bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
“Katherine Woodward Thomas brings a gentle but fiercely powerful approach to what can otherwise be such a painful experience. Through Conscious Uncoupling, we can transform the deepest disappointment into a sacred journey from sorrow to peace.”
~Marianne Williamson, New York Times bestselling author of A Return to Love
“Katherine Woodward Thomas is my relationship guru. Her wisdom and guidance helped me clear all blocks to romantic freedom. Conscious Uncoupling will help you embrace the true meaning of forgiveness and restore your faith in love.”
~Gabrielle Bernstein, New York Times bestselling author of Miracles Now
Gwyneth Paltrow introduces the term on her modern lifestyle website goop
Conscious Uncoupling was made internationally famous when actress Gwyneth Paltrow and her former husband, musician Chris Martin, used the term to announce their divorce back in 2014 and, as Gwyneth says, “broke the internet” in the process.
In addition to being a New York Times bestseller, Conscious Uncoupling is a clear and simple 5-step private coaching process that can empower anyone to have a loving, as well as kind, separation or divorce --- words not typically associated with a breakup.
And this can happen even when only one person engages the Conscious Uncoupling process.
The goal of a Concious Uncoupling is never to sever the relationship. Many couples come to the work with the desire to remain friends and, especially if they share children, cooperative co-parents.
“Family structure can be reinvented and divorce doesn’t have to be devastating,” Paltrow has said. “It doesn’t have to be the end of your relationship with somebody. I think Chris and I were meant to be together and have our kids but our relationship is much better like this: friends and co-parents and family.”
"Conscious Uncoupling is not just a Gwyneth-ism…
[It’s] been around for years, though under the radar—well, until now.”